From what I see deconstructing the origin of hundreds of relationships in individual as well as couples counseling, it is always evident that there is a disconnect between the libidos, but the higher-libido partner makes a fatal error: they are not completely honest with themselves or their partners about how important touch/sex is to them. They tell themselves lies like: My partner knows how important sex is to me because of how much I tell them I enjoy it when we do it I love my partner so muc